I wish I could say that I am amazed at the vitriol that the Royal Wedding this morning has inspired in my peers on the Facebooks. I cannot feign surprise at the hate from men, who never claimed to be interested in weddings or royals. Weddings are thought of in our culture as intensely feminine occasions, by women and for women. While planning our own wedding, Jared was told by a bartender (male) to not even attempt to provide input about the occasion, because women crave control over the entire affair. Completely untrue, but that is another rant. The point is that men demonstrate their lack of interest in many events and interests simply because they are thought of as feminine. I am not denying that men do not have their own individual opinions, only that as a gender they are expected to do masculinity in their public lives. Today this was exhibited by expressing public disinterest in the Royal Wedding. My surprise comes from the many women who felt it necessary to publicly voice their disdain for the news coverage of the royal wedding.
It seems like they noted other people, women, to be exact, enjoying the spectacle and the sheer emotional thrill of seeing two people who seem very much in love be joined in marriage in a very public and lavish ceremony. They then were compelled to make it clear to anyone listening that they were absolutely NOT interested. This is amusing to me because if I had to make a point of mentioning whenever I am not interested in something I would never have time to talk about things that actually interest me. I heard the complaint that the news was jammed up with coverage. What is usually on the news though? I thought the news sucked already, I didn’t know that coverage of a joyous occasion that made millions feel like there was hope in the world would really be less desirable than stories about armed robberies or tornado victims. That leads me to my second point, there has been no time in history thus far when it was easier to seek out the exact news desired. It is called “Google,” just type in anything other than “royal wedding.”
Why the lady-hatred for this wedding? I understand being embarrassed by people of the same gender when they act stupid. I am the same gender as the Real Housewives of whatever. Unlike the real housewives, though, the royal wedding was inspiring to some because witnessing two people who love each other make a commitment is a reminder that love and commitment exist. Seeing two people genuinely smile through their first public kiss as man and wife is heart-melting. Why is it so popular to exhibit distaste in the emotional? All I can do is try to draw a parallel with the behavior of males, which leads me to question if these hater-ladies are just trying to horn in on the privilege provided by the rejection of the feminine. All that is female is consistently devalued and belittled in our culture. Instead of hopping on the bandwagon with the menfolk to stand up against the feminine, why not stand up against the unfair system that paints anything that women like as less meaningful or fun than man-things? If you truly dislike exhibiting femininity, don’t be such a hypocrite. Cut your hair and give away your makeup. I am not kidding, get some dickies. I love that look. There is a whole sector of feminism that rejects femininity, which is fine. Do it. Don’t limit yourself to simply raining on my happy wedding parade.
The powers-that-be are discussing a lockout of football right now. Unlike the royal wedding, football happens ALL THE TIME. I do not feel the need to malign a sport that brings happiness and joy to millions, even though a lockout would cause me to not have to hear people talk for months about something that is completely uninteresting to me. The difference also is that in football half the fans are disappointed after every game, for months, every year. At the royal wedding, everyone won.